A Message for My Children on Their First Day of School

Dear Olivia and Evan,

As I opened my eyes this morning, the realization that you will be starting a new school year at a new school today held me hostage for a moment. Today, you embark on yet another new chapter in your young lives, and as we rode the elevator down from the 17th floor I thought of so many things I wanted to say to you. Things I’ve already covered in the many conversations we’ve had leading up to this day, but as a mom can’t help but feel the urge to repeat in case you didn’t hear me the first time.

Floor 16I wanted to tell you that I know what it’s like to be the new kid. I understand the butterflies in your stomach and wondering if you’ll make friends. Believe in yourself. I do.

Floor 15I wanted to tell you I understand worrying about finding your way both physically and socially. You’ll spend a lifetime finding your way. Never give up.

Floor 14  – I wanted to tell you that sometimes the new kid is at a disadvantage simply because you are new, but the very fact that you are the new kid is sometimes an advantage in and of itself. Embrace the adventure.

Floor 13I wanted to tell you that as the new kid other kids will be drawn to you. Some won’t accept you. That’s okay as it will be their loss.

Floor 12I wanted to tell you to embrace this new experience with a positive outlook because while it is all strange and a bit scary today, very soon it will all be routine and familiar. It’s the circle of life.

Floor 11I wanted to tell you to try not to look so nervous. Sometimes the simple act of smiling can be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. It is said a picture is worth a thousand words. I believe a smile is worth at least that much.

Floor 10I wanted to tell you if at any moment today you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, just breathe. You’ll be amazed how a couple of deep breaths can help you see things in a whole new light.

Floor 9I wanted to tell you to remember you only need one good friend. Quality trumps quantity.

Floor 8I wanted to tell you how my heart is torn between wanting to keep you home with me all day where I can love you and protect you and wanting you to go out there and have experiences I can’t provide for you. Don’t grow up too fast okay?


Floor 7I wanted to tell you how I prayed last night that those you cross paths with today will see you as I do…smart, kind, caring, funny, creative. More importantly, I hope you always see yourself as I do.

Floor 6I wanted to tell you not everyone will have things in common with you. Embrace the differences. They may pleasantly surprise you.

Floor 5I wanted to tell you to be patient with yourself and others. Time has a way of charting our course from the trivial to the really big stuff.

Floor 4I wanted to tell you to not be afraid to try something new. That’s the beauty of a clean slate.

Floor 3I wanted to tell you to listen when the teacher speaks, when someone new talks about themselves, etc. Listening is one of those skills that will come in handy later in life.

Floor 2I wanted to tell you to follow instructions when necessary, but also to make sure you always express yourself. It’s okay to speak up.

Ground – As we exited the building for our short walk to school, I took each of your hands in mine and said, “Just be yourself, and remember how much I love you. I’ll be waiting to hear all about your experiences this afternoon.”

I realized that’s really all you needed to hear.



What do you tell your children on their first day of school?

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41 thoughts on “A Message for My Children on Their First Day of School

  1. I enjoyed reading this and truthfully, I wish I’d written it. It is always hard to let them venture out on their own but unfortunately it is part of being a good parent. You sound like one of the good ones. Peace to you.

    1. Being a good parent is do difficult sometimes. We want to make it right and easy for them, but can’t and shouldn’t because in so doing we would be stripping them of the very experiences they need to grow. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  2. Finally, I get a chance to swing by! My husband took the kids out for a few hours so I’m catching up on my blog reading. Anyway, to echo what everyone has already said this was such a beautiful letter to your babies on their first day of school.

    I could personally relate to Floor 9–quality over quantity. I’ve always preferred having a few good friends over many superficial ones. It’s kind of like job hunting, you only need ONE! 😉

  3. School already? We have a few more weeks. Such sweet and wise sentiments you have for your children…I hope they have a wonderful school year.

    1. Thank you Vernette. I’ve been right there with you today. Pick up time couldn’t come soon enough for me. I was dying to hear how their day went. I hope all is okay with you and you were just having one of those days?

  4. Perfect advice and beautiful children. They’ll be great and the repeating will continue. I’ve realized that daily encouragement and long hugs mixed with good food takes the sting out of the difficulties they’ll face.

    1. My sister and I had our mom’s lectures numbered. We could tell which one it was going to be from the first words out of her mouth. ha ha. We’ve never forgot them though…proof she did a good job!

    1. Thank you. My dad always said he and my mom had done their job in teaching us right from wrong. It was up to us to take those lessons with us and remember them when faced with our own decisions.

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