Some people are hard to love. Some people’s choices differ from ours. Their actions don’t make sense to us. Their beliefs are foreign to us. Some people are hard to love.
It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to love them anyway. It doesn’t mean they don’t deserve our love, our time, our compassion.
When my daughter was one, we took her to see her first movie, Disney’s Finding Nemo. She was mesmerized by the giant screen which transformed before her eyes, when the lights dimmed and the movie started, into an aquarium larger than life . There’s a scene in the movie where the seagulls are all intent upon eating Nemo and his friend Dory, repeatedly claiming their prey with an incessant chant, “mine, mine, mine, mine.” To me, it is the funniest scene in the movie. My daughter is now twelve and I still laugh at that scene.
The thing is, I’m not sure if it’s the scene itself or the fact that it reminds me of our own human behavior. It seems to me we’ve perfected this seagull mentality in our own lives as we build walls around our yards and ultimately our lives, as we claim our prey in the form of a new car, a promotion, a cool friend before others do because how would that make us look after all. Many of us, blinders on, choose to ignore the signs when someone needs help, dismissing it with a “it’s not my problem” attitude.
If you’ve ever been around a toddler for any amount of time, you know it is much like this scene in Finding Nemo. Compassion begins at home. It is our job to teach them to be aware of other’s needs as well as instill in them compassion when it comes to those around us. I’m not going to get into a political debate here because that’s not what this post is about. As I stated above, we all have our own beliefs, etc. I believe if I worked for something, I earned it. I don’t expect some greater power to demand I share what’s mine with someone else. What I do expect is for me to help someone less fortunate in my way when I see a need. I am raising my children to do the same. Regardless of where you fall on the political spectrum, compassion should always be present.
Life isn’t a fairytale or a Disney movie with a guaranteed happy ending. As I like to say, we each have our own once upon a time, our own unique upbringing, our own cultures, our own personal experiences that make us who we are today. However, we can all come together to write the next chapter. We can reach out and help someone close a hurtful chapter and begin a new, more promising one. In the simplest of ways, we can make a difference for someone by simply showing compassion whether in person, in writing, online, with a comment or even a smile.
Teach the children in your life to be aware of the needs around them, to be kind, to love those who are hard to love, and to show compassion in all they do. It has been said it takes a village to raise a child. Do your part to raise a compassionate child for that same child will grow up to have a role in the very same village some day.
This post was written as part of an initiative that is near and dear to my heart, 1000 Voices For Compassion.
I invite you to join 1000 bloggers on February 20, 2015 as we flood the internet with compassion in the form of blog posts, videos, photos, etc.
Write a post about compassion on your blog, join our Facebook Group, invite others to participate.
You don’t have to be a writer to submit a post to the website or simply post a comment on FB, share a post or tweet something compassionate with the hashtag #1000speak then sit back and see how one little blog post has become a movement.
The preparation of this event is already connecting people across the globe. It has taken on a life of its own which to me simply means a little compassion goes a LONG way!
9 thoughts on “Some People Are Hard To Love”
All we need is Love.
So glad that we are in this together! I found the seagull scene the funniest in the movie too! And, you’re so right of how it’s an apt reflection of society!
Fantastic post! You are right on the money. Good job!
YES! Brilliant 🙂 I’m so glad that you’re behind this.
AMEN to THIS Leah! I love the way you shared this. I have written a post about teaching our kids the art of compassion that is coming out on another site soon. I get this, I absolutely agree.
I love the seagulls hitting the sail and still cawing “Mine-Mine-Mine-Mine”. Proper nightmarish. Thank you.
I don’t think it is a greater power demanding that you share what is yours with someone else: rather that there are some things we do better communally. In England, we had the monasteries taking the population’s tithes, and distributing to the poor, and then from the reign of Elizabeth we had the Poor Law. So for nearly five hundred years we have looked after the poorest and neediest in our society together. Charities have worked alongside that, again large groups of people coming together to consider particular needs.
And, yes, teaching children compassion early is a great gift.
We are each other’s keeper and I resent those who think they did anyone all by themselves.
Compassion must be the theme of the day. That was my subject today as well, but in a different way.
I really like this outlook! I agree that we should teach our kids to take the feelings of others into consideration, even if they are not necessarily part of their friend group or inner circle and/or they are not going to benefit from it themselves in any way directly. I think this would go a long way in our society.